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How to stop beating yourself up by Bryony Gordon

It’s 1st January and all you can hear are howls of ‘new year, new you’. Which makes me want to gag. I mean, excuse me: What was so wrong with the OLD you? For a long time during my twenties and thirties, I compared myself to others – and it only made me sad. I was tormented by thin, happy, healthy people. I would see joggers whizzing around the streets in the early morning as I returned home from a night out, the self-loathing seeping into my bones. I never dreamt I was a runner. I was (am) a dawdler, a loafer and a smoker. Until one day, I decided that I didn’t want to think about what I couldn’t do – I wanted to think about what I could do. And so began my journey to self-acceptance. Last year, I ran all 26 miles of my second London Marathon – in my underwear.  You don’t have to run a marathon in your knickers, obviously. But every time you find yourself thinking that you need to be a ‘new’ version of you, stop. And remember: this new year, you just need to be fearlessly, unapologetically you.

10 tips from Bryony Gordon on how to stop beating yourself up: 

  1. Eat: A piece of cake every now and then – BUT don’t punish yourself for days afterwards.
  2. Drink: A glass of wine if you feel like one. Just maybe not 5 or 6.
  3. Run: Just once this January, and see how it goes.
  4. Be: Fearlessly and unapologetically YOU. Do not compare yourself to the person sitting next to you at work.
  5. Dance: To a Beyonce to a dance work-out. Ditch the spin class if it’s not working for you.
  6. Enjoy: A few sober evenings at home each week.
  7. Walk: If you can’t make it to the end of the race, walk. The most important thing is getting there in the first place.
  8. Take time: You and a girlfriend to a weekend away every now and then. Do it.
  9. Sleep: Before 11pm at least 2 times a week.
  10. Accept: Your body and your mind, and never be ashamed of it.

by Bryony Gordon @bryonygordon. Her new memoir Eat, Drink, Run is now out in paperback.

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