about Choosing to be childfree?

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    Sweetness38

    The daily panic about whether to have children, or adopt, or remain childfree and break your husbands heart! And the lack of narrative about being childfree in a world swamped by the ‘living the dream/social media mums’… Anyone else in need of a childfree role model to make it all okay? When you are 38 and have been married for a few years then the pressure feels relentless.

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    Loopy Loo

    38 and having made the active decision not to have children. Just not maternal and hubby feels the same. Raising kids I s probably the most important thing you’ll ever do and we don’t believe you should do it half-heartedly. Men are generally cool with this but other women??? Wow!! I’ve lost count of the ‘your time will come’, ‘maybe you’ve not met the right man’ (how insulting for my other half?!), ‘biological clock’ and other such patronising platitudes – not to mention the number of people who have asked whether we’ve tried other, non-natural ways of conceiving!! A plea to all other women, we exist – we being women who have made the active decision not to have children. We’re not all career-obsessed alpha women determined to ‘out-macho’ the men, nor are we wanna-be Mums who are inwardly weeping at the sight of your offspring. We’re people who made a different decision, end of. It doesn’t mean you can’t ask us to babysit but it does mean we may be enjoying an adults only holiday in the Maldives…!

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