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Dating apps are for practice not perfect

If you’re single now you’re on a dating app. Or a few. If you aren’t you’ll have thought about it. And your married friends will be nagging you to be on one, “If I were single I would…” But you’re NOT. And so we now believe that Tinder or Happn or E-Harmony or Match are our only chances of meeting someone. He’ll be out there in cyberspace. But no. Turns out that of all the ways of meeting someone, a dating app is the least likely to do it for you.

An underwhelming 8% of people in relationships met on dating apps according to a report by ReportLinker, says Bustle. All those apps, that scrolling through profiles for a less than 1 in 10 chance. So what did do it? Old school. Most couples hooked-up through friends. You know, like meeting someone in real life and talking. 39% of people met their partner through mutual friends, so keep pestering people to set you up. 15% met at work. Not bad. Even random encounters in a bar or ‘other public area’ made for 12% of relationships. And you’d think sports, religion and hobbies were really scraping the bottom of the dating barrel but they trundled in at 9%.

So what’s with the dating apps fail? They make for too polarised an approach – and dating isn’t an exact science. We need to rethink our dating tactics confirms behavioural scientist Clarissa Silva. “Don’t just rely on the typical dating apps as the only methods of meeting someone. That will create online dating fatigue quickly.” She suggests diversifying your approach to stop getting frustrated and max out your chances. Her parting advice? Love has no formula. Include online and offline in your strategy. Cover all bases.

So don’t turn your phone off. Download all the apps you like. Scroll away. Let Tinder be your fluffer. Do the fast-food app-shag. But don’t put all your eggs in your Tinder basket.

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