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Why the crazy bitches get the nicest men

Have you ever asked yourself why it is that the crazy bitches get the nicest men? Well, it’s the Dark Triad. And no this isn’t some vitamin supplement you can pick up online. It’s the trio of traits that scientists have identified as being extremely alluring to the opposite (or same) sex. Narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism. Which explains a lot.

Yes, you know that thing about how ‘no one is going to love you until you love yourself’?’ Apparently no one is going love you until you are obsessed with yourself. Until you put your feelings first in every situation. Until you corrode others’ sense of self with a devilish efficiency.

According to a paper in the European Journal of Personality, ‘Dark Triad traits are linked to the pursuit of short-term mating strategies’. And for the first time ever (!) they studied narcissism in women.

In a dating study the scientists assessed participants’ Dark Triad traits. Across both sexes, narcissism was positively associated with mate appeal for short- and long-term relationships.

In other words, the narcissists were deemed hotter. This could merely be because they spend so much time caring about how they look: narcissists are often vain. But it isn’t. Because looks are only looks. Narcissists are also confident, compelling and manipulative. They will promise – actually and atmospherically – to love you like no other.

This might make you tired, depressed and deflated. Well, it’s a jungle out there. So next time you are negotiating Tinder or Happn or Bumble, channel your inner narcissist. After all, it is all about you.

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